The the poem below is framed in my parents home. Their marriage works, it works really well. What an incredible living example they are of a marriage that makes much of Christ.
Marriage Takes Three
I once thought marriage took
Just two to make a go,
But now I am convinced
It takes the Lord also.
And not one marriage fails
Where Christ is asked to enter,
As lovers come together
With Jesus at the center.
But marriage seldom thrives,
And homes are incomplete,
Till He is welcomed there
To help avoid defeat.
In homes where Christ is first,
It's obvious to see,
Those unions really work,
For marriage still takes three.
Author Unknown
Just two to make a go,
But now I am convinced
It takes the Lord also.
And not one marriage fails
Where Christ is asked to enter,
As lovers come together
With Jesus at the center.
But marriage seldom thrives,
And homes are incomplete,
Till He is welcomed there
To help avoid defeat.
In homes where Christ is first,
It's obvious to see,
Those unions really work,
For marriage still takes three.
Author Unknown
I am a firm believer that as a child, my safety and security came from the fact that I knew at the end of the day my parents were not going to divorce. Now that we have a child, part of our responsibility as parents is to work through the tough issues, the conflict, the disagreements, the arguments, and make our marriage, our home, one that honors and exalts Christ. Why? He is worthy. If Christ was willing to die, conquer and master sin for me, then I must be willing to always work it out in my marriage. Even if we didn't have a child, He is worthy, and therefore I must be willing to work at my marriage.
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Proverbs 14:1 “A wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”
I know that I have influence in my home. My daughter watches my every move, pretty scary. This makes me want to examine my tone, my attitude, the way I manage my time, the way I treat my husband. I want to carefully determine what pleases the Lord. When conflict and disagreements arise, not if, I need to examine myself. The expectation is the same for my husband. Marriage should begin with the ownership of the log in our own eye. We are brilliant at making it someone else' s fault. We must own our behavior, I will not be at fault for my husband's choices and behaviors, but I am at fault if I allow the conflict to escape without resolving that conflict.
Am I producing only what is good and right and true?
Am I producing only what is good and right and true?
